Going through a divorce can be one of the most difficult things you will ever have to face. In your time of difficulty, one of the most important things you will have to do is choose the right attorney for you. With so many choices, it’s hard to know who you can trust and who will handle your case with discreetness and respect.
The relationship you have with your attorney is sacred. When you retain his or her services your attorney is ethically charged with keeping anything you discuss as confidential. This means attorneys cannot talk about your case with anyone in private or public without your consent. Since it is actually the attorney and not the client who initiates the process of divorce, your lawyer will file complaints and summons in the family law court. Whether your ex is in favor or against the divorce, he or she will need to file a response in court to support or oppose it. It’s imperative you trust the one you have hired to handle your case with the utmost of discretion. Knowing that you can trust your attorney at every moment of handling your case is monumental in the process ahead of you.
If you or a loved one is thinking of divorce, here are a few tips to consider before making any decisions.
- Be respectful of your words and reactions to your spouse. Aggression can sometimes only make the situation worse. Let your emotions settle before making any sudden decisions. Your initial talks will have a profound effect on the rest of your separation.
- Refrain and agree with your spouse from posting any news on any social media right away. Allow a "grace period" to let the dust settle.
- If you feel you are in danger, seek safety and contact a legal representative.
- Be sure to keep any and all vulnerable information to yourself and your legal representative. It's better to assume that any information you tell to anyone close to you will probably get repeated.
- Take the time to consider the effects of a divorce on yourself, your family, and your future before announcing it. Even if divorce is right for you, it's good to know and be sure of the "why" behind it. Consider wise counsel, therapy, and temporary separation before deciding anything.
- Prepare ahead of time and be willing to wait before announcing. Even a good and painless divorce takes time, needs to be planned and talked out, and requires legal process.
- Make a list of the things that are most important to you. Be sure not to just write down material things, but also, what you are looking forward to after divorce.
- The more you and your spouse can settle before court, the easier and cheaper the process will be.
- Both spouses should be present when telling their children. Don't let them find out the news from another source. It's also never a bad idea to prepare or meet with a therapist beforehand to prepare for the children's questions and concerns.
- Know your state laws concerning divorce and that in most states, from the date of separation on, everything each spouse earns or creates belongs solely to him or her.
- Be reasonable and be fair. Striving to get all you can is understandable, but be mindful that you may have to re-engage with your spouse and your mutual friends or community in the future. Don't let your words damage the other spouse in front of the public eye.
Contact Legal Counsel
At Bombardo Law Office, P.C. we understand confidentiality is the most important thing to our clients, and we will go above and beyond to ensure you have the utmost of confidence in our practice. We understand that divorce is difficult and your privacy is our commitment. We are dedicated to making sure you have access to reach us when you have questions or concerns, and are willing to do what it takes to work with you to your desired outcome. We have over 20 years of experience in divorce and family law and take every client’s case seriously.
You can arrange your free consultation online or by calling our office at 315-488-5544. Our firm offers after hours and weekend appointments by appointment only. We would love to meet with you and answer any of your questions.